And I also have to confess that the homeowner's "Ditto" is just about my kind of decorating these days.
How We Used to Decorate...
We used to do it up pretty big with outside lights and displays when my kids were young. And then it occurred to me that we could not even really see any of the decorations from inside the house to enjoy for ourselves.
I began to question whether we were doing it to impress others in our neighborhood or for our own gratification. And as the years went on, it began to feel more and more like a chore and obligation rather than a fun holiday activity.
...And How We Decorate Now
Now we decorate very simply, indoors only. Where we get to see it. The added benefits are one less thing on my holiday to-do list and less stress.
Traditions CAN Be Changed...
The point is that there's nothing wrong with changing or stopping traditions when they become burdensome and tedious. Women, in particular, all to often feel the need to carry on these habits past the point where they are doing themselves or anyone else any favors.
...And Sometimes Should Be
Way too many of my female friends hate the holidays because of the stress of meeting others' expectations and the extra long to-do list involved with doing that. And many of their husbands hate the holidays because of their spouses' less than relaxed attitude and behavior.
If that describes you or your household, then I'd recommend taking a step back and reassessing which traditions are worth the output of time and energy to continue. Many of them are not.
And for goodness sake, stop ADDING chores to your list just because a new fad happens on the scene. I honestly think the young mothers I know who have taken up the Elf on a Shelf "tradition" have gone off the rails a bit in their quest to provide the perfect holiday for their kids and families.
Stop yourself if you feel any such urges to add to your already too long to-do list!
At the Very Least, It's Okay to Ask for Help
And if your family members moan about any proposed changes, then enlist their assistance in getting everything done. If it's important enough to them, they will help. Otherwise, it's time to let it go.
Don't be afraid to change things up to put some time and peace back into your schedule and actually give yourself a chance to revel in the spirit of the season. Or time with your family and children.